How often do you find it easier to see your flaws rather than appreciate your strengths? If you answered, fairly often, you are not alone.
Societal norms, educational environments, and/or family dynamics condition us to look at our failures rather than our successes. We internalize criticism and shrug off compliments. For some of us the idea of looking in the mirror with open-heartedness and love then saying to our reflection, “Hey, I think you’re fantastic; I genuinely appreciate and like you,” makes us squirm uncomfortably.
Change Your Mindset to Embrace Self-Appreciation
Choose to set an intention each day to do your very best—whatever that means for you. If you follow that intention, then you have succeeded in your goal for the day. Give yourself a hug of self-appreciation, and start over the next day. Even if you didn’t achieve perfection—again whatever that means to you—by doing your best, and being pleased with it you begin to move into a space of self-appreciation. Self-appreciation does not imply vanity or narcissism. These two traits arise when you flaunt your “daily best” to others and expect praise and accolades in return.
How do we embrace our positive qualities in a healthy way? First, we need to acknowledge that all people have strengths and weaknesses. Then, when we enjoy what’s good about ourselves, we embrace and celebrate our goodness without evoking feelings of arrogance or pretentiousness. We treat ourselves with mindfulness, kindness, and a sense of common humanity when considering our perceived flaws. [Read more…]